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Relationship Grief & Loss
“I know it was a good thing to go our own ways, but I miss his niece and nephews.”
How Love Captures Us
A relationship is an invisible, living, breathing entity that you and your partner create together—which is exactly why a breakup can feel like a death to be mourned. This entity exists independently while being held together by the threads of your commitment to one another. You lay down the foundation and continue to build, adding pieces to the infinite puzzle that is human relations.
Relationships also create a chemical addiction—sometimes making your happiness and survival feel dependent on the presence of another person. Their loss brings the devastating physical and emotional symptoms of withdrawal, along with the grievance of the end of the relationship.
A Loss That Needs Grieving
Relationship loss comes in many forms, and its effect on us is equally as diverse and uniquely lived. You may have lost the person you thought would be your life partner, or lost the relationship you once had with the person you are currently with. You may be grieving a divorce, the ending of a committed relationship, or a short-lived romance that left you shaken with passion, arriving like a storm and leaving just as loudly. In the end, things change, and people move in and out of our lives, whether that decision was mutual or one-sided. We are left feeling numb like we lost the control and privilege of choice we once had. It seems natural and necessary at the time, and yet it is a loss—a loss that needs grieving. Together we will shed some light on those losses, and make meaning of them all.
Reconnecting With Your Innermost Self
After a separation, moving on and trusting a new person can seem frightening. To trust that they will hold your heart in their hands ever so gently; being careful not to hold it too tight and allow it to slip through their fingers, and not treat it carelessly so that it falls to the ground. To give them the power to break your heart, but trust them not to.
I will help you move forward and take steps towards reconnecting with yourself again because to be able to trust another, it first entails trusting yourself. If your needs require it, I will help you carry out small rituals as a symbol of closure—freeing yourself from your past and stepping into bright new beginnings. Some people prefer to gather old possessions that carry a connection to their ex-partner and dispose of them, while others write letters of untold feelings and burn them, getting the closure they truly need.
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